Know what is inner child

“Children are born loving their parents, and they’re born assuming their parents love them. Their relationship with the family they are born into is their first taste of human connection, and thus, their first taste of love. It doesn’t matter if we in our adult perspective look backwards and say: ‘That was NOT a loving household…’ A child does not know any different than this version of love that exists in their home. Because of this, they associate love with home. The way that they felt in their home and in their relationship with their parents becomes their definition of love” 

First years of life are spent mainly with our parents or caretakers, the relationship formed with them in these early years sets the tone for how we behave in our adulthood either in relationships with others or just for life in general. Every child, including those from the happiest or most functional of homes, experiences some level of rejection, sadness, or “trauma” (no matter how big or small). Unless these wounds were properly healed we are most likely still carrying them in our subconscious. When these emotional wounds are brought into our conscious awareness they will manifest in our outward life, which means we will keep finding our self in the same “problems” in our relationships with others until the light of awareness, healing and love is brought to the inner child inside of us. We have to bring the memories back up, only then we can accept them. We accept the fact that our parents literally gave us the best they could give. Once we know this, we can find it easier to offer at least some sort of empathy as to why they behaved in the way they did, and eventually forgive them completely. Once we have transmuted old hurts into love we are able to offer more love to all the people in our lives.