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Recognize your frozen inner child

Facebook Instagram We all have secrets and most of us have had some wounds tied to our inner child. Our wounds could be result of a childhood friend moving away, physical or psychological abuse, or a broken family, the resulting pain will live with us for the rest of our lives; and we may be reminded of the pain unexpectedly. If we do inner-child work by connecting to the little boy or girl within us, we can reconnect with some of the reasons for our adult fears, phobias. and life patterns. When we begin to understand them, then magic, healing, and transformation can occur.Behavioural patterns playing out in our lives based on frozen Inner child.1.) The RESCUER:Rescuers please parents for love and others call them goody/ teacher’s pet.Result– Later in life, they like victims and like to rescue people to make sure victims are dependent on them because it make them feel in control and needed.2.) The RATIONALIZER: Rationalizers live in their head because it is safest. They are mostly disconnected from their own emotions because they can’t deal with feelings. Most of the times, in their childhood they were instructed not to cry, show anger and express their feelings.Result– Later in life, they do not remember the last time they got angry/upset.3.) The REBEL: Rebels like to control parents or people around. They get attention by being naughty or by making fuss.Result- Later in life, they like to shock and often get angry because people won’t do what they want them to do.4.) The VICTIM: Victims get attention by sobbing, crying or by not being well. They easily get hurt and they think that by crying people around them pour love.Result- They see faults in everyone around. They can’t take their own responsibility because If they take no one will look after them or give them attention.5.) The ACHIEVER:  Achievers try harder and harder to prove to their parents and get love in return.Result– Later in life, they become workaholics and over stressed because they think that without success they will be tagged as failure and they won’t be loved.6.) The PLEASER: Pleasers supress their own feelings for others’ happiness. According to them if they will please people, they gonna like pleasers and if people will feel happy they won’t reject pleasers.Result-They don’t value their self. Later, they will anything for quite life and always remain guilty. they only can relax when everyone has everything they want.6.) The PLEASER: Pleasers supress their own feelings for others’ happiness. According to them if they will please people, they gonna like pleasers and if people will feel happy they won’t reject pleasers.Result-They don’t value their self. Later, they will anything for quite life and always remain guilty. they only can relax when everyone has everything they want. Dr.Shaveta Bhardwaj Best Psychologist Therapist and Counselling in Jalandhar city. See Her Profile in Google Services Child Psychologist Family Counselor Addiction Treatment Anxiety treatment Relationship Counselor Post Divorce Counseling Pre marriage Counseling Post Marriage Counseling Hypnosis Recognize your frozen inner child Know how words can change your reality  6 DON’Ts for over-worrying, over-focusing on your child and being a helicopter parent Awaken your powers Channeling

How can you overcome social anxiety?

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Facebook Instagram Social Anxiety can be very discomforting. To free yourself from this prison, you will have to rewire your brain with new thoughts that take time to cement in the brain.  1. The change cannot happen overnight: People often try out strategies and when they do not work, they give up. Remember that rewiring the brain can take months, but trying to change your thoughts over months could save you years of unnecessary anxiety. So remember, that when you try out any thought change, the brain will initially resist this. The one way to overcome brain resistance is with dedicated and repeated practice.  2. You are not the only person with personal secrets: We often make assumptions that we are the only people with secrets. Understand that you are not the only one with secrets.  3. Insecurity and security are two sides of the same coin: Those people who claim to be “secure” have not shown their insecurity. They have simply learned to redirect their attention to their strengths rather than their weaknesses. Brain circuits of opposite emotions are on most of the time. Where you place your attention is what you will feel. It is similar to courage and fear.  4. You have more to say than you think: People often feel socially anxious because they are afraid that they would have nothing to say. But this happens because they are constantly thinking of what they “should” say rather than what they want to say. Grant yourself the permission to speak spontaneously. In fact, many other people at these parties feel the same kind of nervousness. Some suggestions of ice-breakers: “Hi! How are you? I Just thought it would be better to connect than stand alone” (Honesty often gets a giggle and can start a great conversation) “How are you? I love your….(shoes, dress or bag)” (compliments set the tone for a positive start).  5. Social anxiety is really personal discomfort: Social anxiety is not really social at all. So ask yourself: how can I be more self-accepting? To be self-accepting requires that you see that perfection does not exist. Dr.Shaveta Bhardwaj Best Psychologist Therapist and Counselling in Jalandhar city. See Her Profile in Google Services Child Psychologist Family Counselor Addiction Treatment Anxiety treatment Relationship Counselor Post Divorce Counseling Pre marriage Counseling Post Marriage Counseling Hypnosis Recognize your frozen inner child How can you overcome social anxiety? Know how words can change your reality  6 DON’Ts for over-worrying, over-focusing on your child and being a helicopter parent Awaken your powers

3 ways to get out of bad mood in less than 5 minutes

Facebook Instagram Bad mood can ruin your day as well as that of the people around you. When you’re in a negative or ‘bad’ mood, there are simple things you can do to quickly help you feel much more positive. 1.Fake it ’till you make it is one way that people suggest getting out of a bad mood, and by that they mean to put a smile on, even if you don’t feel the corresponding happy emotion that goes with it. It’s possible that faking a smile will actually help boost your mood, and we do recommend trying it, because there’s virtually no down side to it. 2. TAPPING Here’s What Happens When You Tap These Points On Your Body Tapping can get you out of a bad mood in less than 5 minutes. Tapping acupressure points on your body can help you get rid of negative thoughts that may be causing your bad mood. Read about how to tap your body to remove feelings of sadness, anger or anxiety in our article. You can do several rounds of tapping therapy on yourself to get out of a bad mood in less than 5 minutes.  3. GIVE YOURSELF A PEP TALK Positive self-talk can help improve your mood when you are feeling down. Often, there is a negative voice in our heads that is telling us to feel guilty, ashamed, or that replays the setbacks of the day. Maybe you are feeling lonely or rejected. We have to counter that negativity with some serious self-love to get out of a bad mood.HERE ARE A FEW POSITIVE SELF-TALK PHASES YOU CAN USE:*I know I can do this because I’ve succeeded at tasks like this before.*I am intelligent and I believe in my ability to get all of my work done today.*Today I’m going to be amazing and I won’t let setbacks slow me down.*I learn from my mistakes and I am going to do so much better the next time.  Dr.Shaveta Bhardwaj Best Psychologist Therapist and Counselling in Jalandhar city. See Her Profile in Google Services Child Psychologist Family Counselor Addiction Treatment Anxiety treatment Relationship Counselor Post Divorce Counseling Pre marriage Counseling Post Marriage Counseling Hypnosis Recognize your frozen inner child How can you overcome social anxiety? 3 ways to get out of bad mood in less than 5 minutes Know how words can change your reality  6 DON’Ts for over-worrying, over-focusing on your child and being a helicopter parent

Know how words can change your reality

Facebook Instagram Words have a specific vibrational frequencies which can influence our DNA. Our body can be programmed by language, words and thought.The words we use shape not only our belief systems, values and feelings but impact our physical bodies on a cellular level; shaping the foundation of our reality. This means it’s important to choose our words wisely.    Here are some ways words can transform your realities:1) Express yourself honestlyAn honest expression is extremely important. Every feeling and thought you have is valid. When you try to hold it instead of letting it out, you will feel your emotional body struggling in its attempt to break free.   Solution– Acceptance is the foremost step for transformation . Express all your negative emotions and replace them with positive affirmations. 2) Stop negative self-talk Negative words and phrases like ‘ugly’, ‘fat’, ‘I can’t’ and ‘I hate’ as these words create negative frequencies of worthlessness, suffering and fear.When you want to express a negative emotion or thought, use words like ‘I feel’ or ‘I prefer’ over ‘I hate’ and ‘I can’t’.Solution– Use positive words like ‘loving, grateful, superb, beautiful, thriving, energized, healthy, creative, incredible.’ It will transform your feelings and impressions of yourself. 3) Feed the emotional body with a healthy vocabulary Just like our bodies respond better to balanced fresh meals, our emotional bodies need to be encouraged, loved and cared for. Solution– Repeat to yourself, “I am good enough” “I am strong and capable”“Wherever I am, whatever I do and whoever I become, I am safe and I am. Dr.Shaveta Bhardwaj Best Psychologist Therapist and Counselling in Jalandhar city. See Her Profile in Google BOOK A APPOINTMENT Services Child Psychologist Family Counselor Addiction Treatment Anxiety treatment Relationship Counselor Post Divorce Counseling Pre marriage Counseling Post Marriage Counseling Hypnosis Awaken your powers Channeling Know about Past Life Regression Therapy Ways of self-care in quarantine Do you really listen to your children with complete attention?

 6 DON’Ts for over-worrying, over-focusing on your child and being a helicopter parent

Facebook Instagram 1• Don’t hover over your child. Don’t tie your 5-year-old’s shoes when he/she can tie or dress him/her when they can dress themselves.  2• Avoid talking to their teachers incessantly, or answer all your child’s questions so they don’t have to think of answers.  3• If your children hesitate to make their own decisions, try not to jump in and do it for them. let them reason it out on their own if they can.  4• Allow them to feel discomfort or pain; it’s part of growing up. Don’t prevent them from struggling or rescue them from life’s hardships.  5• Don’t try to get all your emotional needs met by your child. If you’re there at his beck-and-call and over-functioning for him (in other words, doing for him what he can do for himself), he’ll have a hard time functioning on his own in the world. 6• Don’t take it personally if your child doesn’t agree with you, or does things differently from you. If you get in your child’s head, he won’t be able to hear his own thoughts and beliefs. Even if he thinks differently than you, don’t argue with him over it—instead, invite him to tell you more. Don’t shut him down when he has ideas or opinions that are different from the ones you would like him to have, or insist on having the last word.  Children can’t learn if their parents are always doing it for them. What’s the right approach?  I always suggest , “Pretend there’s a line delineating what you believe your kid can handle and what he or she can’t. Now, put your toe over it, just a little.” Let your kids try to do things that are just beyond what you think they can handle. In psychology, it is called the “expectancy effect.” Let your child experience the consequences of his actions. Let go of constant worry as a parent, and realize you can’t control everything your kids do—you can only respond to how they behave. Try to see their strengths as well as their struggles. You can avoid over-worrying and being a helicopter parent if you work on developing strong relationships with your children by getting to know them for who they are. This will allow you to let go of hovering, doing too much for your kids and worrying about them all the time, and best of all, it will help you become a calmer, more peaceful parent. Dr.Shaveta Bhardwaj Best Psychologist Therapist and Counselling in Jalandhar city. See Her Profile in Google BOOK A APPOINTMENT Services Child Psychologist Family Counselor Addiction Treatment Anxiety treatment Relationship Counselor Post Divorce Counseling Pre marriage Counseling Post Marriage Counseling Hypnosis Awaken your powers Channeling Know about Past Life Regression Therapy Ways of self-care in quarantine Do you really listen to your children with complete attention?

Awaken your powers

Facebook Instagram Energy is power and our bodies require energy, therefore our bodies require power. For example, in early stages of our life, we learn to handle the power that comes within the family; in later stages we individualize and manage power as adults. Gradually, we learn to manage our minds, our thoughts and our spirits. Every choice we make is motivated by either faith or fear, these choices we make direct our spirits. If a person’s spirit is impelled by fear, then fear returns to his/her energy field and to the body. If the person directs his/her spirit in faith, then grace returns to his/her energy field and to the body. In our Hindu culture, it is believed that act of awareness create good karma; acts of fear or negativity creates bad karma. To “retrieve” our spirit from fear that motivated the negative action, we’ll have to understand that we are simultaneously matter and spirit. Every attachment we hold on to out of fear commands a circuit of our energy field. What drains our spirit drains our body. What fuels our spirit fuels our body. If we misdirect the power of our spirit, we’ll generate consequences to our body and life. To heal ourselves on spirit level, we have to be willing to release the acts of past, cleanse our spirit and return to present moment. The power awakens only when we accept our life as it is rather then focusing on what is missing from our life or when we see life as empty and meaningless. We need to learn to accept our personal responsibility for having created it. We should develop an attitude of appreciation and gratitude for all we have and for the gift of life  itself. Dr.Shaveta Bhardwaj Best Psychologist Therapist and Counselling in Jalandhar city. See Her Profile in Google BOOK A APPOINTMENT Services Child Psychologist Family Counselor Addiction Treatment Anxiety treatment Relationship Counselor Post Divorce Counseling Pre marriage Counseling Post Marriage Counseling Hypnosis Awaken your powers Autism Assessment Therapy Child Behavioral Therapist Anger issues in Children Therapy Learning Disabilities in Children in India

Channeling

Facebook Instagram Channeling is something that is possible with anyone who has little de cluttered mind to make space for the knowledge to be transmitted. Information from the higherself or spiritual guides come when you become silent within to hear in your mind. It is like echo and its speed is slow. There are hardly any other thoughts.  Anyone can upgrade the level of his/her frequency and become a channel of the beyond. Following are the steps which can help you raise your frequency.1.) Sit/ lie in comfortable position. It should be a safe space eg. Your bed is the best as it carries your energy. Now, close your eyes.2.) Bring your complete focus on your breathing. Inhale with your mouth and exhale with your nose (when a person is about to die, he/she breathes through mouth).3.) Allow thoughts to come and go till your mind is completely empty.4.) Open yourself to just loving yourself and focus on crown chakra, which will feel heavy, tingling or expanding.5.) Be open to receive any thoughts coming in your mind. They may come as thought, vision or a code.6.) Write down with your eyes closed, encourage yourself for auto writing.TRUST WHATEVER HAS COME. Dr.Shaveta Bhardwaj Best Psychologist Therapist and Counselling in Jalandhar city. See Her Profile in Google BOOK A APPOINTMENT Services Child Psychologist Family Counselor Addiction Treatment Anxiety treatment Relationship Counselor Post Divorce Counseling Pre marriage Counseling Post Marriage Counseling Hypnosis Awaken your powers Channeling Child Behavioral Therapist Anger issues in Children Therapy Learning Disabilities in Children in India

Know about Past Life Regression Therapy

Facebook Instagram What is Regression Therapy? Regression therapy is a type of psychotherapy (also called talk therapy) that guides people to remember past events and traumas buried in their subconscious. Age regression therapy, hypnotherapy and past-life regression therapy (PLRT) are versions of this method. During the session, therapist guides the client into a hypnotic state, also known as a trance state. How the Healing Works Past life regression is healing.  You were born not as a blank slate, but as a soul rich with both the wisdom and scars from many lifetimes. We all carry memories from past lives into this life–unconscious memories that carry an energetic charge and continue to affect us. They can be things left undone, vows made, accomplishments, failures, mistakes, success, emotional debts, guilt, gratitude, traumatic and sudden deaths, wisdom, and love. These charges from the past set up patterns which are continually triggered and repeated in our present life. These patterns can be positive or negative. They can affect our relationships, behaviors, motivations, and even our physical bodies and health. Positive patterns can feed talents, bestow wisdom, influence tastes, and energize life purpose. Negative patterns fuel destructive, compulsive behavior, cloud judgment, cause injury, and block your way. By making these memories conscious, we can release the patterns that no longer serve us, freeing us to live more fully in the present. Beneficial patterns are reinforced, negative patterns are neutralized. Regression Therapy Benefits Some people try past life regression simply out of curiosity to see who they were in the past.  But for most, it’s a path for personal growth and healing. While it might not address all the causes of a problem, regression therapy can help with starting the process of addressing past wounds. Myths about hypnosis and Past life regression (PLR) Many believe that it is a completely altered state. In reality, those under trance are usually aware of their surroundings. It is not just about physical relaxation; it also includes being extremely focused on any sensations in the body and images in the mind. At the end of the session, therapist will guide you back to a normal waking state, and discuss the experience and any insights gained during the session. Therapy allows a person to experience their inner lives without distractions from their surroundings. How many PLT sessions are necessary? For some people there are only a few, while for others, there may be numerous issues to address.  Sometimes a client only has to work the key/root experiences as they surface and any similar Unresolved Past Experiences (UPE) will also resolve since they are associated with the same experience or pattern. The number of sessions necessary to reach full resolution varies by client and their short or long term goals they want to achieve. What to Expect? A therapy session might include going under trance. The experience of past life regression varies from person to person. Some people report vivid and detailed memories, while others may only experience vague or symbolic images. For those who are not comfortable with hypnosis or not open to moving past painful emotions, regression therapy might not be effective. How long is a Past Life Regression session? Usually 90 minutes to 2 hours and contains pre and after therapy talk. Prior to your session, it is important to set an intention for what you hope to gain from the experience. This can help you focus your thoughts and energy during the session. You should also be prepared to discuss any fears and concerns you may have with your therapist. After your session, you may feel a range of emotions, from elation and clarity to confusion or even sadness. It is important to give yourself time to process your experience and to reflect on any insights you may have gained. Past life regression is the process of healing the soul by healing the past. Dr.Shaveta Bhardwaj Best Psychologist Therapist and Counselling in Jalandhar city. See Her Profile in Google BOOK A APPOINTMENT Services Child Psychologist Family Counselor Addiction Treatment Anxiety treatment Relationship Counselor Post Divorce Counseling Pre marriage Counseling Post Marriage Counseling Hypnosis Awaken your powers Channeling Know about Past Life Regression Therapy Anger issues in Children Therapy Learning Disabilities in Children in India

Ways of self-care in quarantine

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Facebook Instagram Why your self-care is so important in Quarantine. It is quite understood that a lot of people’s schedules are crazy right now. Everyone has chosen to self-quarantine to avoid possibly becoming carriers.This is your chance to take care of yourselves so you can take care of others. It’s time for you to implement the concept of SAVERS by Hal Elrod from Miracle Morning. Practice this SAVERS concept every day for 10-15 minutes. S—Silently pray for yourself and others or do a loving kindness meditation for the people hardest hit during the pandemic. A—Affirm that YOU will be a light in the darkness for others. That you will exercise kindness, compassion and strength for all of those who come across your path. V—Visualize being healthy, and emerging on the other side of this to be an even better version of yourself. Think on acting with kindness and helping others. See yourself as the very best version of YOU. E— Exercise and stay strong. This virus apparently preys on the weaker among us. Don’t be one of those. Get outside where possible, breathe the air and exert yourself for more energy to deal with this pandemic and what lies ahead of us beyond it. R—Read to sharpen your minds, and learn some more skills. Some of us will have our profession changed through all of this. Let’s hit the ground running and get ahead of the curve on what we need to know. S— Scribing – This one is the most important. Let’s journal on our blessings and what we are grateful for in our lives. Let’s maintain that positive attitude that helps others when we come into contact with them…even if it’s virtually. So, let’s keep on moving. Let’s keep getting up and taking that time for ourselves each. Dr.Shaveta Bhardwaj Best Psychologist Therapist and Counselling in Jalandhar city. See Her Profile in Google BOOK A APPOINTMENT Services Child Psychologist Family Counselor Addiction Treatment Anxiety treatment Relationship Counselor Post Divorce Counseling Pre marriage Counseling Post Marriage Counseling Hypnosis Awaken your powers Channeling Know about Past Life Regression Therapy Ways of self-care in quarantine Learning Disabilities in Children in India

Do you really listen to your children with complete attention?

Facebook Instagram Listening and attention skills are vital in building a child’s cognitive, behavioural and affective aspects. It is essential they develop this ability to interact and communicate with the world efficiently. One of many extremely complex tasks of parenting is to be able to strike a close to ideal balance of styles of listening and responding with the appropriate styles to a child’s varying needs. Many parents may think they are truly listening when all they are doing is pretend listening or at best selective listening but this is self-deception, designed to hide from themselves their laziness. Children themselves often like to drift in and out of communication.   Less than ten years of age, child’s propensity to talk is so great. The effort required to truly listen can be exhausting for a parent. And finally, it would be unbelievably boring because the fact of the matter is that the chatter of ten years old is generally boring.  For true listening, no matter how brief, requires tremendous effort and total concentration. You cannot truly listen to anyone and do anything else at the same time. There are families in which the children are virtually not allowed to talk. “Children should be seen and not heard”. Such children may be seen, never interacting, silently staring at adults from the corner, MUTE ONLOOKERS FROM THE SHADOWS. Some permit their child’s chatter but simply not listen to it, so that your child is not interacting with you but is literally talking to thin air or to himself/herself.   Another type of parents pretend to listen, preceding along as best they can with what they are doing or with their train of thoughts while appearing to give the child their attention and occasionally making “unh huh” or “that’s nice” noises at more or less appropriate times.   Sometime parents do selective listening, where in they may pick up their ears if the child seems to be saying something important, hoping to separate the wheat from the chaff with a minimum effort. The problem with this way is that human mind’s capacity to filter selectively is not terribly competent or efficient, with the result that a fair amount of chaff is retained and a great deal of wheat lost.   Truly listening means giving your child full and complete attention, weighing each word and understanding each sentence. It is always recommended to parents that they should always truly listen to their children.   For children below ten years a balance of pretend, truly and selective listening is suggested. Sometimes children just want to interact with parents, just because they can’t talk to themselves, then their need can be quiet adequately met by pretend listening. At times what children want from interactions not communication but simply closeness and pretend listening will satisfy to provide them with the sense of “being with” that they want.       In other words, it is dull to listen to young children and truly listening at this age is real labour of love. If you give your child the same esteem you would give to your favourite task, then the child will know him or herself to be valued and therefore will feel valuable. Value creates value. There is no better and ultimately no other way to teach your children that they are valuable people than by valuing them. The more you listen to your child, the more you’ll realize that in amongst the pauses, the stuttering, the innocent chatter, your child does indeed have valuable things to say.   The dictum that great wisdom comes from “the mouths of babies” is recognised as an absolute fact by anyone who truly listen to children. Dr.Shaveta Bhardwaj Best Psychologist Therapist and Counselling in Jalandhar city. See Her Profile in Google BOOK A APPOINTMENT Services Child Psychologist Family Counselor Addiction Treatment Anxiety treatment Relationship Counselor Post Divorce Counseling Pre marriage Counseling Post Marriage Counseling Hypnosis Awaken your powers Channeling Know about Past Life Regression Therapy Ways of self-care in quarantine Do you really listen to your children with complete attention?